Today's hair wisdom comes from OKBecky who talks so eloquently about changing her hair to change her life, I thought you should hear it straight from her. But before we get to her own personal hair wisdom, what's your story? When did you fix your hair to fix your life? When did you change your hair to change your life? With the debut of The Wisdom of Hair just a few weeks away, I'm contemplating a change as we speak to launch the book and to launch myself out into the world. And at 55, armed with this simple truth, I'm excited about getting a new cut, maybe not a bob, but still I feel it … [Read more...]


  Ever notice how there are always a few people in your life who are ALWAYS telling you how they like your hair a different way? In my case one of those folks is my husband who has always preferred my hair short. Actually you can add my mother to that list and his mother. Why do we listen to these people and get a perm when we'd rather go straight, color instead of going natural? The list of juxtaposed possibilities is endless. One of my readers, Becky Steele, writes--As a small child growing up my Grandma would come visit and set each of us girls on the trash can in the yard and give … [Read more...]


I posted this piece back in the fall after talking with Christie. It only seemed right to post the addendum. Please read and learn and give generously to eradicate this horrible disease. Although breast cancer is no picnic, it doesn't seem to be the death sentence it was thirty years ago when I met my friend, Christie Rosen. But Christie has a particularly nasty form of of the disease, basil type triple negative cancer and she is fighting like hell to get better. I have high hopes for her because Christie, is THE most positive person I have ever known. When times were dark, she was the one … [Read more...]


  I was born in the '50's in a time when women were encouraged to stay home and dream for their husbands and their children, for anybody but themselves. Somewhere in all that, my mom decided she wanted to go to beauty school. To this day, even at 81 Mom is still gorgeous and has always enjoyed the latest styles and fashions. Working at the Bomb Plant (we'll save this topic for another blog) and with three daughters, my dad thought he should save every penny rather than opening his wallet which would certainly have resulted in financial ruin. Mom was a resourceful woman. She figured out … [Read more...]

Change Your Hair. Change Your Life.

  Growing up in a tiny one stop light town, I don't think I was fully aware that the women came into my mom's beauty shop to change their lives. If I did, it didn't click until years later, and by years, I really mean decades (OUCH!) Subconsciously, I saw this desire for change in myself, but it really came to light as Zora Adams, the protagonist of The Wisdom of Hair, told me her story (yes, I really do hear voices) and also when my editor asked me what exactly "the wisdom of hair" was. By the grace of God, and with a few "uhs" and "you knows," the words just spilled out. WOMEN CHANGE … [Read more...]


When I was pregnant the first time, (and no, that's not me in the photo) it was a la la land of wonder and delight. Even when I was three weeks late, I was huge but happy, excited about being a mom, prepared to the nth. Fast forward three years. I'm about to pop with my son, instead of craving brown rice and vegetables like I did with the first pregnancy, I was heavy into Big Macs and fries, and, instead of reveling in anticipation, I was so tired of being pregnant I was doing jumping jacks to get the baby out. Okay, fast forward again 23 years. We're 75 days away from the March 5 pub date … [Read more...]

Storms and Roses

  I've watched the news lately with a sick heart and a lot of anxiety. Part of that is because my 22 year old son lives in NYC, but the majority is for the many people whose lives have been turned upside down by hurricane Sandy. The only thing other than a lot of prayer that's made me calm, hopeful, even optomistic is my rose garden. Some roses are big and showy like New York. Others are small and make their mark with perfect symmetry, fragrance, or color. When the heavy rains and winds come, some of the blooms are beaten up, but there's an amazing number with their heads held high, … [Read more...]

When Washing Hair is Akin to Washing Feet.

I was at the South Carolina Writers' Conference this past weekend with almost 200 writers from all over the country. While I heard a lot of wonderful speakers and spent a lot of quality time with my amazing agent, Kevan Lyon, the most memorable thing for me was washing my friend Ginny's hair. Ginny has Friedreich's Ataxia, a rare disease that causes progressive damage to the nervous system and the heart, but she refuses to let the disease hold her back. She jetted around the Myrtle Beach Hilton Resort on her red scooter all weekend overseeing the fruits of her labor from months of planning … [Read more...]


  You sit down in the chair and your stylist asks you what want to do this month. Do you want to keep that Jennifer Anniston look or go jagged and short? How about a great big bouffant or soft pink curls? Your stylist offers you a world of choices, but consider our brave women in the military who give up their freedom to do whatever the heck they want with their lovely locks. The fabulous LTJG, Jocelyn Fox, graduate of the Naval Academy and sailor of the seven seas writes-- For women in the military, our hair is a source of exasperation, identity, beauty and defiance. We cut it short … [Read more...]


I had my color touched up recently, THANK GOD! And as much as I've been around salons and grew up with a hair stylists for a mom, I learned something I didn't know. Maybe I knew it but never really thought about it. But that woman or man, standing behind your chair with their hands in your hair? YOU are as much a part of their lives as they are a part of yours. While Crickett, my hair stylist, therapist, and friend was drying my hair, she leaned down and suggested, "Now there's something you should write about." I looked to see an average couple of average age sitting in the reception area, … [Read more...]