woman with short brown hairToday’s hair wisdom comes from OKBecky who talks so eloquently about changing her hair to change her life, I thought you should hear it straight from her. But before we get to her own personal hair wisdom, what’s your story? When did you fix your hair to fix your life? When did you change your hair to change your life?

The Wisdom of Hair - by Kim Boykin

With the debut of The Wisdom of Hair just a few weeks away, I’m contemplating a change as we speak to launch the book and to launch myself out into the world. And at 55, armed with this simple truth, I’m excited about getting a new cut, maybe not a bob, but still I feel it right down to my freshly colored roots! Great things are a coming!

SO back to the bob! OKBecky writes: My hair is thick and wavy (it became curly like a perm all on its own about age 17!) and I always felt so frustrated with it. When I was a child, my mom cut my hair at home, and when it grew out, it swagged over my shoulders like Cocker Spaniel ears, and my bangs flipped outward like water buffalo horns. But at age 14, a classmate suggested I get a perm, or dye my hair, or straighten it, or something, and I didn’t like the idea of drastically changing it. I realized if I wouldn’t change it, then I’d better learn to like it as it was, and we’ve been on much better terms ever since!

Later in life, I discovered that for some reason, cutting all my hair off released me from all sorts of emotional or psychological connection to a particular man, whichever one was the most significant at the time. I had hair to the middle of my back at the end of my senior year of high school, and one day I went and got it all chopped off to a bob. Surprisingly, that made it easier for me to move out of my parents’ house (I had a very difficult time with my father [which is now, years later, everything I could have wanted, so the story ends well!]). A few years later, I was having a hard time getting over my first-ever love, and dreamt he was cutting my hair. I went the next day and had my mid-back-length hair cut to a bob, and voila – no more frustrating romantic attachment to this guy (we’re still good friends).

Okay, so spill? Share YOUR hair wisdom. Tell us YOUR story!


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About Kim Boykin

Kim Boykin learned about women and their hair in her mother’s beauty shop in a tiny South Carolina town. She loves to write stories about strong Southern women, because that’s what she knows. Kim is an accomplished public speaker and serves on the board of the South Carolina Writer’s Workshop. She lives in Charlotte, North Carolina, with her husband, three dogs, and 126 rose bushes.
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  1. Kim,

    I am SO happy for you and it is exciting to see your writing dreams coming true!!! It was a thrill to pre-order my copy from Amazon, and I look forward to seeing all the wonderful things that are to come. The family looks forward to seeing you at the Decatur book festival if not beforehand. Hugs to you!

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