Going Home








After getting married almost 31 years ago, my husband Mike and I left home, I from New Ellenton, SC and Mike fromAiken,SC. Since then we’ve lived in St. Louis, Tampa, Charlotte, a little village just outside Milwaukee, and then back to Charlotte. Our hometowns have changed as much as we have over the years, but there’s still something about driving down Whiskey Road in Aiken or the rolling hills between there and New Elenton that will always feel like home.

Saturday, April 20 at 3pm, I’ll be at the main branch of the Aiken County Library signing copies of my novel The Wisdom of Hair, which seems a little weird. Even though the building has been a bona fide library for many years, there will always be a part of my brain that thinks of it as Aiken Elementary School. Growing up, I’m sure I wouldn’t have been voted the girl Most Likely To Publish A Novel, but thank God our lives hinge on what we do beyond 18, even though it doesn’t seem that way at the time.

Songs and poems and novels have wasted a lot of words swearing you can’t go home again. But they’re wrong, at least as far as I’m concerned they are. And I’ll be in Aiken this Saturday with one of the dreams I left with fulfilled.

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About Kim Boykin

Kim Boykin learned about women and their hair in her mother’s beauty shop in a tiny South Carolina town. She loves to write stories about strong Southern women, because that’s what she knows. Kim is an accomplished public speaker and serves on the board of the South Carolina Writer’s Workshop. She lives in Charlotte, North Carolina, with her husband, three dogs, and 126 rose bushes.
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  1. Gene Rollins says:

    Yes you can go home, sometimes just in your memories. Remembering the little girl who grew up next door. Will always remember your Dad & Mom, what great people.

  2. Kim, your odyssey sounds like ours. Where did you live in the Milwaukee area? We spent almost four years in Greenfield and Greendale.

    • Kim Boykin says:

      Hi Steve,
      We lived in Nagawicka, between Delafield and Peewaukee. It was quite the experience and enough snow to last me a life time.

  3. Enjoyed reading this. After living at the coast for most of my adult life, I’m still adjusting to “coming home” to Camden.

  4. I’m an Army brat, so the feeling of “home” isn’t where I grew up but where I was born and where my parents live. The sunny climes of California, specifically west of Los Angeles near the ocean. There’s just something about palm and eucalyptus trees that set my heart to pitter-patter. So “going home again” brings up a lovely rush of wanting and homesickness. And thank the stars above we’re not doomed to be judged by our teenage years. So much has happened recently and continues to happen. Life at 18 can’t compare one bit with what life is all about now. Hope your visit to Aiken went well and you brought back your charm and maturity.

  5. Katherine Keckeisen says:

    I am from a small SC town, Darliington. There is nothing like growing up in a small town. I had 2 older brothers and the most wonderful parents growing up. My childhood was perfect as far as I am concerned. I really felt your words about “Coming Home”. My mom and 1 brother now live in Aiken. I live in Columbia with my husband and we are also empty nesters to 2 boys. Have the rose bushes also but no dogs!! My book club is starting your book for our next meeting/discussion. We can not wait to get started reading. We will be sending pictures for the “ultimate book club getaway” to you in July. Hope you had a great time in Aiken. I am going to visit my mom tomorrow. I enjoy their downtown area. Not that crazy about Whiskey Road!!!

    • Kim Boykin says:

      Thanks so much for your note, Katherine. If you I’m happy to visit with your book club when you discuss the book. I’ve had so much fun doing that. Thanks for sharing your story!

      • Katherine Keckeisen says:

        Oh, wow! That would be awesome! Our club is meeting June 17th to discuss our latest book and decide when we will meet again in July to discuss your book. I will be in touch and see if the date fits your schedule. If you have some open dates in July that you already know of please let me know and we will schedule our time around you. We have a nice group of (mostly) southern ladies that would love to meet you. Thanks, Katherine

        • Kim Boykin says:

          And I’d love to meet them! Here are the July dates that are booked so far-Friday July 12, Myrtle Beach, Wednesday July 17-Sunday July 21 (Atlanta,) and Friday July 26 here in Charlotte. Any other time is fine with me. I’m am so looking forward to meeting you and your book club! Also, if you want to Email me a pic of your book club and I’ll enter you in my Book Club Girlfriend Getaway. Click the link below for more information!
          Have a fabulous weekend!

          • Katherine Keckeisen says:

            Hi Kim, We are so excited that you will be joining us at our book club in July. I played tennis with Doni Jordan this morning and she told me that she is talking to you about planning the date that is good for your schedule. We are meeting next week to discuss our June book (Life of Pi) and make plans for your visit. We will send you a picture of our club before you come. We all look forward to meeting you. Thanks so much.

          • Kim Boykin says:

            So excited! Looking forward to meeting everyone.

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