Meet THE WISDOM OF HAIR’S Big Beautiful Sarah Jane Farquhar

beautiful plus size woman

Here’s a SAD fact. I went looking for a prototype of the formidable Sarah Jane Farquhar, the protagonist’s BFF in THE WISDOM OF HAIR and couldn’t find one. I put “blonde plus sized woman” in the search engine and then “big beautiful woman” and a bunch of other combinations of these two trying to find SJF. What I got from thousands of clip art pics were photos of skinny, very pregnant women, unattractive grossly obese women, but no Sarah Jane Farquhar.I settled for this woman, who really ISN’T SJF in real life, and ask that you picture her forty or so pounds heavier.

So why is this so sad? The fact is SJF is physically based on a wonderful woman I knew when I was a kid, Vaughn Hannah, who was so beautiful inside and out, she made your forget her size.

Miss Vaughn owned a salon; her hair and makeup were always perfect, and when she wasn’t wearing her uniform, she was always impeccably dressed. I loved her for a lot of reasons but mostly because she’d let me brush out her perfectly coiffed french twist, put makeup on her and then tissue it off with Merle Norman cold cream.

I think it would be really hard for Miss Vaughn, who was every bit as formidable as Sara Jane Farquhar, to thrive in the world today. We live in a time where size matters, where big isn’t considered beautiful. BUT that’s what I love about SJF, she transcends her size.

Am I saying we should all gain a ton of weight? No, but what I am saying is there ARE beautiful BIG women out there and it’s time we gave them their due.

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About Kim Boykin

Kim Boykin learned about women and their hair in her mother’s beauty shop in a tiny South Carolina town. She loves to write stories about strong Southern women, because that’s what she knows. Kim is an accomplished public speaker and serves on the board of the South Carolina Writer’s Workshop. She lives in Charlotte, North Carolina, with her husband, three dogs, and 126 rose bushes.
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  1. Betty Standridge says:

    That’s our daughter, beautiful from the inside out. I have never known a more caring person and her caring and love comes unconditionally. Her dad and I are very proud of her.

  2. Teresa Burgher says:

    I just read your article in the Quill and wanted to take a look at your webpage. I love the hook for your story and the link to your search for SJF’s look alike. I can’t wait to read your book! Great title and lead in. It took me back to when I was a very small girl and I would brush the long steel gray hair of an old woman who was a neighbor. I loved that she let me and remember it like it was yesterday. Now, I have taught my tiny granddaughter to love to brush my hair. I so hope she remembers it many years from now and understand how this simple act of love connects women from generation to generation in a ritual as old as remembering.

    • Kim Boykin says:

      What a beautiful memory and testament to what our hair means to us. Love that you’re passing your own wisdom of hair along to your granddaughter. Thanks so much for reading and commenting!

  3. Joan Gray says:

    Love you Kim! You are amazing-
    yr sister Joan

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