One of my best memories is being a young teen and running my quarter horse, Fig, a big sorrel gelding down a dirt road that encircled the little 9-hole golf course my father owned. Me with my long hair, and Fig with his tail, we were a mass of brown hair flying as fast as we could go. To this day, when I think of freedom, my freedom, I think about those moments racing with Fig. When I was little and before I had any say in the matter, my hair was super short, a glorified bowl cut. As I got older and more opinionated, I grew it out, but my mom still dictated the style. There are pictures of me … [Read more...]


Even if it’s just for a day or a locking yourself in the bathroom for a couple of precious hours, everyone needs to get away. But summer is right around the corner and, to a lot of folks that means vacation time. Anyone can come up with a gazillion places to go and things to do, but the focus of this prayer meeting is those precious minutes that can revive and often times save us from doing bodily harm to those we love and even those we don’t.  So here are some creative mini-vacations to rejuvenate your or at least get you through the day. Some cost money and some don’t but all of them are … [Read more...]


I'm 55 and blessed to have both of my parents, nobody has to remind me of that. But somewhere along the way, I've put them on the same level as my people, what most folks would call my characters. My people come to me fully formed, with a story to tell. They talk a mile a minute and to be completely honest, they write the book for me, I'm simply the typist. The thing about them is, for the most part, they never get old and SPOILER ALERT, they never die. To me, my parents are sort of wrapped in the warm cocoon of their own stories, not in a Bill Murray/Groundhog Day sort of way, but they're … [Read more...]


  Now if you've got a little gray showing, you're probably bowed up like a Halloween cat by the title of this post, but those are  Jessica Topper's words, not mine. And for good reason. Jessica has gorgeous, and I do mean GORGEOUS gray locks. Jessica shares my philosophy about my hair, which I likened to the way I raised my children. My hair can do whatever it wants to as long as it behaves itself and doesn't hurt anybody. That's meant a lot of things over the years. Pixie cuts. Bangs. BIG HAIR, the list goes on. You'll hear from Jessica in a minute, and when you do, I want you to … [Read more...]


  Ever notice how there are always a few people in your life who are ALWAYS telling you how they like your hair a different way? In my case one of those folks is my husband who has always preferred my hair short. Actually you can add my mother to that list and his mother. Why do we listen to these people and get a perm when we'd rather go straight, color instead of going natural? The list of juxtaposed possibilities is endless. One of my readers, Becky Steele, writes--As a small child growing up my Grandma would come visit and set each of us girls on the trash can in the yard and give … [Read more...]


I posted this piece back in the fall after talking with Christie. It only seemed right to post the addendum. Please read and learn and give generously to eradicate this horrible disease. Although breast cancer is no picnic, it doesn't seem to be the death sentence it was thirty years ago when I met my friend, Christie Rosen. But Christie has a particularly nasty form of of the disease, basil type triple negative cancer and she is fighting like hell to get better. I have high hopes for her because Christie, is THE most positive person I have ever known. When times were dark, she was the one … [Read more...]

Change Your Hair. Change Your Life.

  Growing up in a tiny one stop light town, I don't think I was fully aware that the women came into my mom's beauty shop to change their lives. If I did, it didn't click until years later, and by years, I really mean decades (OUCH!) Subconsciously, I saw this desire for change in myself, but it really came to light as Zora Adams, the protagonist of The Wisdom of Hair, told me her story (yes, I really do hear voices) and also when my editor asked me what exactly "the wisdom of hair" was. By the grace of God, and with a few "uhs" and "you knows," the words just spilled out. WOMEN CHANGE … [Read more...]

When Washing Hair is Akin to Washing Feet.

I was at the South Carolina Writers' Conference this past weekend with almost 200 writers from all over the country. While I heard a lot of wonderful speakers and spent a lot of quality time with my amazing agent, Kevan Lyon, the most memorable thing for me was washing my friend Ginny's hair. Ginny has Friedreich's Ataxia, a rare disease that causes progressive damage to the nervous system and the heart, but she refuses to let the disease hold her back. She jetted around the Myrtle Beach Hilton Resort on her red scooter all weekend overseeing the fruits of her labor from months of planning … [Read more...]


  You sit down in the chair and your stylist asks you what want to do this month. Do you want to keep that Jennifer Anniston look or go jagged and short? How about a great big bouffant or soft pink curls? Your stylist offers you a world of choices, but consider our brave women in the military who give up their freedom to do whatever the heck they want with their lovely locks. The fabulous LTJG, Jocelyn Fox, graduate of the Naval Academy and sailor of the seven seas writes-- For women in the military, our hair is a source of exasperation, identity, beauty and defiance. We cut it short … [Read more...]


I had my color touched up recently, THANK GOD! And as much as I've been around salons and grew up with a hair stylists for a mom, I learned something I didn't know. Maybe I knew it but never really thought about it. But that woman or man, standing behind your chair with their hands in your hair? YOU are as much a part of their lives as they are a part of yours. While Crickett, my hair stylist, therapist, and friend was drying my hair, she leaned down and suggested, "Now there's something you should write about." I looked to see an average couple of average age sitting in the reception area, … [Read more...]