One of my best memories is being a young teen and running my quarter horse, Fig, a big sorrel gelding down a dirt road that encircled the little 9-hole golf course my father owned. Me with my long hair, and Fig with his tail, we were a mass of brown hair flying as fast as we could go. To this day, when I think of freedom, my freedom, I think about those moments racing with Fig. When I was little and before I had any say in the matter, my hair was super short, a glorified bowl cut. As I got older and more opinionated, I grew it out, but my mom still dictated the style. There are pictures of me … [Read more...]


  I’m stepping out of the literary closet to say–I’ve written a romance! Not only have I written a romance, I’ve read A LOT of the genre this past year (47 and counting to be exact,) and the more I read, the more I am amazed how what a bad rap it has amongst the group who claims to be “the masses.” Most of those “rappers” are probably tucked in bed with a book and a flashlight or a Kindle, reading love stories like crack, but too embarrassed to admit it. But why? Romance is happy. Romance is hopeful. Sometimes hot, but always satisfying. In a world that desperately needs more HEA's … [Read more...]


Even if it’s just for a day or a locking yourself in the bathroom for a couple of precious hours, everyone needs to get away. But summer is right around the corner and, to a lot of folks that means vacation time. Anyone can come up with a gazillion places to go and things to do, but the focus of this prayer meeting is those precious minutes that can revive and often times save us from doing bodily harm to those we love and even those we don’t.  So here are some creative mini-vacations to rejuvenate your or at least get you through the day. Some cost money and some don’t but all of them are … [Read more...]


  Now if you've got a little gray showing, you're probably bowed up like a Halloween cat by the title of this post, but those are  Jessica Topper's words, not mine. And for good reason. Jessica has gorgeous, and I do mean GORGEOUS gray locks. Jessica shares my philosophy about my hair, which I likened to the way I raised my children. My hair can do whatever it wants to as long as it behaves itself and doesn't hurt anybody. That's meant a lot of things over the years. Pixie cuts. Bangs. BIG HAIR, the list goes on. You'll hear from Jessica in a minute, and when you do, I want you to … [Read more...]


Today's hair wisdom comes from OKBecky who talks so eloquently about changing her hair to change her life, I thought you should hear it straight from her. But before we get to her own personal hair wisdom, what's your story? When did you fix your hair to fix your life? When did you change your hair to change your life? With the debut of The Wisdom of Hair just a few weeks away, I'm contemplating a change as we speak to launch the book and to launch myself out into the world. And at 55, armed with this simple truth, I'm excited about getting a new cut, maybe not a bob, but still I feel it … [Read more...]


  Ever notice how there are always a few people in your life who are ALWAYS telling you how they like your hair a different way? In my case one of those folks is my husband who has always preferred my hair short. Actually you can add my mother to that list and his mother. Why do we listen to these people and get a perm when we'd rather go straight, color instead of going natural? The list of juxtaposed possibilities is endless. One of my readers, Becky Steele, writes--As a small child growing up my Grandma would come visit and set each of us girls on the trash can in the yard and give … [Read more...]


I posted this piece back in the fall after talking with Christie. It only seemed right to post the addendum. Please read and learn and give generously to eradicate this horrible disease. Although breast cancer is no picnic, it doesn't seem to be the death sentence it was thirty years ago when I met my friend, Christie Rosen. But Christie has a particularly nasty form of of the disease, basil type triple negative cancer and she is fighting like hell to get better. I have high hopes for her because Christie, is THE most positive person I have ever known. When times were dark, she was the one … [Read more...]

Change Your Hair. Change Your Life.

  Growing up in a tiny one stop light town, I don't think I was fully aware that the women came into my mom's beauty shop to change their lives. If I did, it didn't click until years later, and by years, I really mean decades (OUCH!) Subconsciously, I saw this desire for change in myself, but it really came to light as Zora Adams, the protagonist of The Wisdom of Hair, told me her story (yes, I really do hear voices) and also when my editor asked me what exactly "the wisdom of hair" was. By the grace of God, and with a few "uhs" and "you knows," the words just spilled out. WOMEN CHANGE … [Read more...]

Storms and Roses

  I've watched the news lately with a sick heart and a lot of anxiety. Part of that is because my 22 year old son lives in NYC, but the majority is for the many people whose lives have been turned upside down by hurricane Sandy. The only thing other than a lot of prayer that's made me calm, hopeful, even optomistic is my rose garden. Some roses are big and showy like New York. Others are small and make their mark with perfect symmetry, fragrance, or color. When the heavy rains and winds come, some of the blooms are beaten up, but there's an amazing number with their heads held high, … [Read more...]


I had my color touched up recently, THANK GOD! And as much as I've been around salons and grew up with a hair stylists for a mom, I learned something I didn't know. Maybe I knew it but never really thought about it. But that woman or man, standing behind your chair with their hands in your hair? YOU are as much a part of their lives as they are a part of yours. While Crickett, my hair stylist, therapist, and friend was drying my hair, she leaned down and suggested, "Now there's something you should write about." I looked to see an average couple of average age sitting in the reception area, … [Read more...]